New Year Starts on Your Birthday!

I am probably a little bit more amped than usual! For me, this is THE greatest week of the year-- this is my birthday week! My birthday is this coming Saturday and I am overjoyed!

What I want to get into today is a little controversial and it’s going to kind of turn some folks on their heads, but hey, anybody who knows me knows that what I do! Let’s get right into it this is what I want you to do

I want you to grab a sheet of paper. At the top of that sheet of paper, write when your birthday is—just the month and the day. You’re going to see why in a minute, but that’s the first thing.

The second thing that I want you to do is Google, Alexa, Cortana, or anything you can do to find out how many days it is FIRST to January 1 and then do another search for how many days until your next birthday. You’re probably like, “Why?” Well, New Year’s Starts on Your Birthday. Now, I'm throwing a disclaimer out here real quick—if your birthday is actually new year’s day, what I say to you may not make sense; however, you can still use it.

Why do I say that New Year’s starts on your birthday and not January 1? Well, the first thing many of us get up on our birthday and we may say that we’re excited to be celebrating another what? Another year! Why? It’s because you don’t get older on January 1, you get a year older on that day when your birthday is. I didn’t turn 37 on January 1, so that’s not my new year.

I present this topic every year around my birthday because that gets my mindset ready to take on the year. I went planner shopping not too long ago and I got upset because the only planners that I could find went from August to July and I was like, “I don’t want no planner that goes from August to July. What am I going to do with that—that doesn’t help me. That doesn’t take me till the end of the year.” However, as this time got closer and I bought an undated planner. The first thing I did with that undated planner was start it in August and I died laughing. I didn’t want that undated planner to start in any other month so, while I was mad that the planner that I was trying to get went from August to July, I did the exact same thing when I bought that undated planner! I paid less for the undated planner, but I still made that planner go from August to July and I fell out!

A young lady I spoke with shortly before I did the video that launched this project told me that her husband came and asked her about setting birthday goals—that’s exactly what I’m talking about. These aren’t New Year’s resolutions, these are birthday goals. These are things you are going to do after you have finished turning up and celebrating—however you do you on your day. This is what you are going to do for those 365 days or 366 days if the next year is a leap year.

The first thing I’m going to tell you to do is, whether you are a planner person or not, to go buy or make an undated planner. Make the first month of that planner the month you were born in. You may say to yourself, “Well, Tammie, do I start it on the first of the month or do I start it with my actual birthday?” I would say that you start it with the day before your birthday—mine starts August 10 and on that day, I have written New Year’s Eve.

The second thing that I want you to do is I want you to come up with a plan for your new year. Now if you have followed me for any length of time, you know what I’ve said about planning. Your plan needs to answer seven questions: who, what, when, where, why, how, and how much.

Whom do you want to link up with this year?

What do you want to get done?

When do you want to do get it done—put some dates on this stuff!

Where do you want to go? Or where do you need to go to get it done

Why is that a goal for you? What’s the importance of it? What’s your motivation for that goal?

How are you going to get it done? What are you going to do over the course of that year in order to make those things happen? How are you going to see these come to fruition without regrets the next year?

How much? Count the costs from the beginning so that you will know how to move forward.

This is going to take research! You’re going to have to think and then you’re going to have to be watchful all year long! If somebody, and it doesn’t have to be me, writes a book that speaks to the goals that you have and they are releasing on x day, write that done, write down how much it is. When you are looking at your plan as it pertains to your goals each month, you know to account for that in your spending for that month. If there is a conference, event, somebody’s webinar, an event in your community—anything like that—put it on your calendar.

If you’re not a paper planner type person, there are apps that allow you to change the start date, so it’s just about what you want to do and what works best for you. Me? People who know me know my mantra is it’s time to put your heart on paper, so that’s why I mentioned the paper planner.

Next thing, I like vision boards. I make vision boards throughout the year, so guess what I’m going be spending my NYE doing? I’m going to have my Birthday Behavior Vision Board and I’m going to have on there my 7 question plan as it pertains to the goals that I have for myself for the year. Then I’m going to write down when those things come to fruition and celebrate! I want you to do the same—put your who, what, when, where, why, how, and how much on there, write down when those things come to fruition and CELEBRATE!

Another thing I’m going to do is to fill up the Prayer, Praises, and Gratitude Journal I bought from Family Dollar. In it, I’m going to write what I prayed about, when it came about, and express my gratitude so it will help me keep focused on what’s going on. Pick one up and do this yourself! If you’re going to work through this New Year project with someone else, write their prayer request and praises down too and celebrate for both you and them so both of y’all can be great.

Tammie, why are you telling us this? It is because I want you to change your mindset. What prompted me to do bring this topic back again was all the coaches and other gurus asking “How are finish the year?” or “How are you going to finish this last quarter of 2018?” I said my year has just begun because, for me, the New Year starts on my birthday. I don’t plan for January 1, I plan for August 10 and a lot of people were like, “Well dang… I never thought about that.”

To coin a meme I’ve seen a lot on Facebook recently: You don’t need a January 1 to start over; you just need a new day. May I add that you don’t need another January 1 to start anew, you need another birthday? So I know I’ve given you a host of things to think about.

Don’t let someone else’s version of finishing the year strong stop you. I had to check myself. Last year, I said, “Let’s finish 2017 strong and start 2018 stronger”, so I have to change my own mindset. For some of you that are August babies, your New Year has either already started or, like me, you’re coming up on it. With that, I will leave you…

As always, God bless. Godspeed in all that you do! And, if today is your birthday, HAPPY NEW YEAR! I’ve got work to do! Look out for the SOON coming release of the BOOK, which will be entitled, “New Year’s Starts on Your Birthday!”

Roses in Concrete

"I work with roses who want to grow through that crack in the concrete." There are quite a few of you out there...and I am here to push you. I call it "Loving Annoying You to Greatness!" 

But, Tammie, WHY?

I understand what it means to be that Rose. In my journey as a business woman, I've dealt it naysayers, loss, low clientele, little to no support--in other words, I know how you feel! 

The days when you cry as you look at a job application that you don't want to fill out because you want your business to work...

The #shadedisguised thrown by those who don't see the value in what you do and you turn purple trying to explain it to them...

The side eye that you give those who insult you by insinuating that you aren't worth what you charge or ask for a discount...

The ones who leave you because you're "doing too much for me"...

A Rose has to fight to come out of the concrete and that's what I'm here to help you to do! See, I understand that the vision in your heart needs to be pruned, dusted off, weeded out, and repotted. You've been run over so many different times that you didn't even SEE that crack in the concrete until now...

You feel like you can't stretch because the money isn't there...the time isn't there...your kids need you...your job needs you...you aren't as talented as she is...you aren't good at anything...you're okay with being where you are--you will never grow that way....

Rose, it's time to fight! The dream and vision in your heart with worth it! Tell me how I can help you...

Why Preparing for YES Is Necessary...

As I sit here preparing to speak at a conference being hosted by a high school friend, I am thinking about more than what I am going to say and how close my table spread will be to the diagram my husband gave me...

I am thinking about the women who will pass me by and wait to hear me speak before they buy a book.

I am thinking about the women who have will be in attendance and have sent me friend requests on Facebook because they wanted to connect.

I am thinking about the women who will dare to ask "So, what else do you do?"

I am thinking about the women who will pick up my speaker sheet and take it back to their school, church, place of business, or work.

What am I doing? I am making sure that my website, bookstore, and booking calendar are up to date, ready for any women to sign up with me, if she so chooses.

I'm thinking about what my new office will look like and anticipating seeing some of those same faces...

"Yes" may catch you off guard at first, yet you must bounce back and reset quickly so that you don't miss out on the JOY of acting in your zone of genius when it comes through! Remember, a Virtuous Business Woman is ready to talk about and demonstrate what she does at a moment's notice, so I ask...

Are you prepared for YES?

Are You Creating Chaos or Rest?

First, let me say Happy New Year! Yes, I know it's February, but this is my first blog post of the year. What I want to talk about today isn't an easy thing to think about--creating chaos or rest--yet we do it more than we know and feel the effects more than we care to admit. Let's get into it!

How do we create chaos in life and business?

The first way is when we never ask for help! Even though the S on our chest may be permanent, we are going to run into our kryptonite in some way. There is something that you may either not know how to do or do well and you'll need more than YouTube, Pinterest, and Canva to get out of it! However, that's not how we handle it. We spend hours upon hours looking, searching and testing different things--all while knowing that there is someone out there who can help us and it's not going to cost us everything we own plus arms, legs, and vital organs. The first step to getting it done is to admit that we can't do it!

The second way is when we don't build a solid and stable support system to help us with all the stuff that we internalize because we don't want to appear inadequate nor incapable! We don't want people to know that we're human and that causes chaos because we are killing ourselves by shouldering things that are meant to be shared. I'll give you one more...

The third way is when we don't invest in ourselves and let the perceived notions of not having the time or money to do so keep our hands tied. Then, when we see others getting results, we will complain about not having the resources...and then we see how much it costs, realize that we do have the time and money, and then find that it's either too late or the price has gone up. Now, we're messaging the person or company begging for a spot!

How do we create rest in life and business?

It's really simple (and a lot shorter)! First, ask for help. There may be someone out there who wants to help, but won't until you open your mouth up and ask! Second, build that support system ASAP, whether it's online or offline, check in regularly, and take that S out (you can do that) when you talk to them. They can't help when they don't have all the details! Last, INVEST IN YOURSELF! Growth and renewal COST! You are worth investing in and no one else will until you do--you've heard that before. There is a way to do everything...

So, back to my original question--are you creating chaos or rest in your life and business? What are you going to do to change it?

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Slayer #7

The last Slayer is by far the ABSOLUTE WORST of the seven -- I'm Good Where l Am! When this Slayer is active, complacency will set up shop and stay a while.

First, your discernment and good judgement will be severely hindered. You won't see things the way you should and miss out on important things that could become a detriment to your business.

Next, you'll start to hate and shy away from anyone who is where you should be. Your attitude towards them will be horrible for no reason other than the fact that you're "good."

Then, you'll find yourself not wanting to learn anything new or more. You'll go through life believing your current knowledge is enough to carry you!

Last, you will walk around, like I have done, thinking and acting like you have it all together when you're really a ticking time bomb. You'll be calm, cool, and collected on the outside, but be FUMING on the inside.

I just have one question for you: Are you really?

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Slayer #6

The Slayer of I Don't Know How to Do Anything Else But This is one that so many run to! It's okay to have that one thing that you are absolutely AWSOME at, but what else are you doing?

When this Slayer is active, you won't educate yourself and try new things. You'll ride that one horse until you're dragging it by its reins. You'll see things that you want to do, but think that it's too time consumin or expensive. Sound familiar?

Next, you will allow yourself to slack off and not give your best effort then start using excuses. You'll say that you're not good at things or when it doesn't work at first, you'll say that's why you don't try new things.

Then, you'll soon be mentally and physically unprepared to take advantage of new opportunities that come with that one thing that you do best. You'll be scrambling to get yourself together so that you can meet the higher demand.

Last, you'll stop looking for opportunities at all and lose your inner go-getter...

My challenge to you here is to not only resurrect your current go to skill, but to also try that new thing that's been on your heart to do!

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Slayer #5

The Slayer of My Talent or Skill Is Just a Hobby will make you forget all about becoming a Virtuous Business Woman!

First, you will stop seeing how valuable you are and how valuable your talent or skill is. People will compliment you and you will throw up a wall of false modesty. You'll say something like, "This? Oh, that' something I just threw together. It's not all that." People will look at you like you have lost your mind....And they'd be right!

Next, you won't want to be around people who will help, challenge, and keep you accountable! You'll seek out people that you can whine to who will allow you to stay in mediocrity. They will drag you down to the point of absolute loss!

Then, you will settle for any old place to display your talents and be angry when the results are less than ideal. You start to see it as a waste of time because you're, as the Bible says, casting your pearls before swine...

Last, you will forget that your talent is rare and precious. You'll see someone else that does it and think that what you do is nothing compared to them. You'll start to doubt your uniqueness...Why do that to yourself?

I'm challenging you to educate yourself about something new related to your talent or skill and use it immediately! Come back here and tell me about it.

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Slayer #4

The Slayer of I Have a Job can be quite devastating to your journey in becoming a Virtuous Business Woman. Why? I'm going to give you just a few of the 18 issues you'll have when this Slayer is active and out of control!

First, you'll see your job as just a job. My brother Benjamin Hall International said it BEST when he told his audience to "Stop seeing your job as just a job and start to see it as the biggest investor into your dream." Enough said.

Second, your performance level will SUCK! You'll forget that you still need to have and show integrity, give and do your best even when it's not appreciated or recognized, and strive for excellence. There may be someone watching you who holds the keys to your next step. Would they give them to you?

Third and last, you'll forget that you got GOALS! They will become a flicker in the dark because you are so inundated with how much you hate your job that you won't even think about them. If someone reminds you of them, you'll roll your eyes before you know it!

So, dare I ask, how do you view your job right now? We know it's not where you are ultimately meant to be, but while you're there, make them hate to lose you!

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Coming Up Next

This week, we'll be looking at the four Slayers that often make people reading the book put it down and walk away fro it. Why? It's because they become angry with themselves for not seeing how much damage was being done in their lives by carrying these Slayers on their backs!

It's time to resurrect the vision behind the job you have, the talents that you've pushed to the side or allowed to sit dormant for years, the joy of being able to do that one thing that livens your soul and the things you've wanted to learn to do or start doing that you haven't, and your drive for more, better, and greater because good isn't enough.

Slayers four through seven are: I Have a Job, My Talent or Skill Is Just a Hobby, I Don't Know How to Do Anything Else But This, and I'm Good Where I Am.

Watch for each post this week for more on how these four Slayers affect you in your journey of becoming a Virtuous Business Woman!

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Slayers Challenge

We've talked about money, time, and family. Which of these three Slayers would you say has affected you the most -- I'm Broke, I Don't Have Time, or I Have a Family? And why? It's important to figure that out because you won't get to the next level carrying these around your neck.

I'm going to give you an assignment for each one of these -- I want you to look at your relationship with money (how and why you spend and what you can do better in), relationship with time (are you managing it or wasting it), and relationship with your family (do you know what their strengths are and how to use them).

In my upcoming program, there will be exercises like these that will challenge you to take a good, long, hard look at how you do things. And, I'll go ahead and say this, you'll be angry with me! Not one person who has worked through them hasn't been. Stay tuned!

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Slayer #3

We've talked about money and time. Now, I want to talk about how the Slayer of I Have a Family affects your journey as becoming a Virtuous Business Woman.

This particular Slayer affects your relationship with your husband, your children, and you family as a whole. When was the last time you really acknowledged the awesomeness in your own household?

First, remember that your family is your biggest cheerleader and first line of defense. However, most of the time, we see them as the reason why we can't do something. People pay a lot of attention to what we say about our families!

Second, our attitude towards our family life will cause it's to overwork ourselves and stay gone more, leading to strained relationships. We need to be leaving a legacy for them to follow.

Lastly, we'll pay for things someone in our homes know how to do. You'll find yourself upset and asking why they didn't tell you that they knew how to do something...The answer will be that you didn't ask them.

I know that many of us have unique family situations that aren't covered in what I said and I understand that. However, it's time to stop looking past the best and most devoted help we could ever have

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman Series: Slayer #2

I shared  previously how the Slayer of I'm Broke could affect four major areas of our lives and businesses. Today, I want to talk about the effects of the Slayer of I Don't Have Time.

This Slayer affects four areas as well: scheduling, goal setting, visioneering, and stewardship! When this one is active, you will feel like you never have time to do anything! You'll be overbooking yourself, agreeing to things thinking that you'll have time to do it, or even schedule something over an important family occasion!

Furthermore, the goals that you set will be unrealistic, unreachable, and immeasurable, meaning that you'll have no clue how to make any of it happen and will be upset because nothing is happening!

Then, your vision will suffer. You won't see what can go forth from you and the place that you have to work in, no matter where that place is. It will become empty and lifeless, causing you not to see the point in continuing.

Lastly, being held accountable will seem like the most laborious things ever and will cause you to have a hair trigger. You'll know within yourself that you could've managed your time better, yet hearing it from someone else will sound like nails on a chalkboard.

Stay in the loop on this upcoming program! More info coming soon!

Slaying the Slayers to Become a Virtuous Business Woman: Intro and Slayer #1

Welcome to the blog! My first round of posts are actually the #1031Check posts from my business page on Facebook, but I wanted to bring them over to the blog because I feel that they bear repeating!

 

Would you believe me if I told you that having ONE active Slayer in your life can lead to problems in as few as 5, but as many as 50 other things that are associated with it in your journey to become a Virtuous Business Woman?

I'll give you an example: I'm Broke (aka Slayer #1) breaks down into 4 areas of brokenness--being physically, mentally/emotionally, spiritually, and financial broke, but it doesn't stop there. Each one of those areas has as few as 3, but as many as 15 attributes of the Virtuous Business Woman that are severely hindered as related to those areas.

Things like stewardship, your personal health, your financial blueprint, your relationship with God, and even the success of your business are affected by this ONE Slayer!

Wonder why I'm sharing this? I'm working on a new program that shows how the 7 Slayers can affect the 21 attributes of the Virtuous Business Woman and this is just the first section!

I'll be putting out more information soon, but I just had to share this...